Silence is
the ultimate power. It is a great way to control others, but also a powerful
tool for getting what you want in life. Here are seven occasions where silence
can be used to your advantage:
- When
the other person is angry.
- When
you need to say something difficult
- When
you're about to offend someone.
- When
you have to make a decision.
- When
someone else has an opinion that's different from yours.
- If
someone asks for advice and you don't know what to say or you would rather not give your opinion.
- When
you truly don't care about what someone thinks about you or the topic at hand.
- It's
important to know when it's best to stay silent instead of saying something
regrettable or offensive
When the other person is angry
When the
other person is angry, it's very easy to get sucked into the vortex of their
anger. It's tempting to try to reason with them or calm them down, but this is
a bad idea. You should avoid any attempt at reasoning or calming down because
you will only make things worse for yourself and your relationship in general.
If a friend is mad at you, don't try to defend yourself or explain why what you
did was okay; instead of getting into an argument about something that isn't relevant
(and could easily be resolved), they'll just feel even more upset by your
actions—and might even blame themselves for making things worse!
When you need to say something
difficult
It is always
better to say something that you really want to say. This way, when you do
finally have the courage to speak up, you can do it in a way that will make an
impact and be most likely accepted by the other person. For example: "I
know this is not easy for me." Or: "I realize how hard this must be
for everyone involved."
If your goal
is getting something done or changing someone's mind about something, then it
may help if you try using direct questions instead of trying to convey
everything through your tone of voice alone (for example: "You are wrong
about this"). It also helps if possible try not shouting at people who
disagree with us; instead explain why our point is valid without being so blunt
about it ("That sounds reasonable enough").
When you're about to offend someone
You don't
want to offend someone, hurt their feelings or make them angry. If you do and
they tell you so (even if it's just a gentle nudge) apologize immediately.
You don't
want to make someone feel bad about them because of what you said—it's
important for everyone involved that this doesn't happen!
When you have to make a decision
When you
have to make a decision, it can be hard to know what's best for yourself and
your family. But there are times when silence is the best option—and not just
because of the potential consequences of acting on your impulses. In fact, one
of the most important things about making decisions is that they require
careful consideration, which means gathering as much information as possible
before making your choice.
The problem
with many people's approach to making decisions is that they don't take enough
time or care in gathering their facts before reaching any conclusions (or at
least not enough time or care when they're deciding whether or not they should
act upon those conclusions). If you're going through life without ever fully
weighing all sides of an issue before taking action, then chances are good that
something will go wrong somewhere along the way—either due to poor planning or
bad luck—and this could affect not only yourself but also those around you too!
So if possible: ask someone else for advice first!
When someone else has an opinion
that's different from yours
When someone
else has an opinion that's different from yours, it's tempting to try and
convince them of your point of view. But this can lead to an argument, which is
never good for anyone involved. Instead, try a more gentle approach by
remaining silent and letting the other person finish their thought before you
jump in with your own commentary. Once again: don't argue!
If you feel
strongly about something and want to share your thoughts with someone else who
feels the same way but isn't ready yet, wait until they are ready before asking
what they think (and don't be afraid of being defensive if necessary).
If someone asks for advice and you
don't know what to say or you would rather not give your opinion.
It's OK to
say that you don't have an opinion on the matter, or even that you're not sure
of something. No one has ever been hurt by someone who didn't give an answer
because they were too afraid of making a mistake. In fact, it can be helpful
when people are trying to get their point across and make them understood by
saying what they mean in terms of words instead of simply stating their
position outright. It also makes everything easier if everyone knows upfront
which direction each person is headed before starting off discussing anything
else at all!
When you truly don't care about what
someone thinks about you or the topic at hand.
When you
don’t care about the topic at hand, it's better to stay silent.
There are
two reasons why this is true: 1) you can't avoid offending someone by saying
something; and 2) people will think less of you if they know that your thoughts
on a certain topic aren't important to you. In other words, if your goal is to
get through life without offending anyone or feeling like an insignificant
person in your community (and let's face it—that's just not realistic), then
silence may be for the best.
It's important to know when it's best
to stay silent instead of saying something regrettable or offensive
Silence is a
powerful tool, and it can help you avoid saying something regrettable or
offensive.
- Know
when silence is best: Sometimes it's better to say nothing than to make a fool
of yourself or offend someone else. If you take time to think about what your
response will be before speaking, you'll have more control over how well-spoken
your words are. This also means that if someone asks for advice on something
they're not sure about, don't waste their time by telling them outright how
wrong they are! Instead of being an expert at everything in life (which isn't
always possible), just give them some general guidelines and let them figure
out how much detail fits within those boundaries—and maybe even provide some
additional insight later if needed!
- Silence
during an argument: When two people disagree with each other intensely over an
issue such as politics or religion (or any other topic), it can be tempting for
both parties involved in the discussion process just want things resolved
immediately so everyone can get back onto more pleasant subjects like cute
animals doing funny things on YouTube videos where someone else posted them
first anyway...but no matter how hard we try sometimes these arguments aren't
going anywhere fast enough without adding fuel into flames by randomly shouting
insults at each other ("You're wrong!" "I'm right!"). So
instead why not keep quiet until everyone calms down enough so there's room
left over between conversations otherwise known as civility; especially since
silence may encourage others around us who may feel uncomfortable hearing harsh
words spoken aloud too often themselves."
Conclusion
I'm not
saying it's always easy to stay silent. It can be hard to know when silence is
the better option, but as I mentioned earlier, there are some instances where
silence is not only appropriate but necessary. One thing that I learned from
this article was that sometimes people need a little push from someone else
before they speak up about something important or difficult. And while it may
be uncomfortable at times when someone asks for advice or wants your opinion on
something they aren't sure how to handle themselves just yet - don't feel
pressured into giving them what they want right
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